MattKay

Parenting: Developmental, Attachment and Infant Trauma. Prior to the recent neuroscience of trauma and the latest understanding of the...

DO NOT LET YOUR BABY “CRY IT OUT”. (Parents please read) For the last century there has been a belief amongst parents that letting the...

Trauma - Unconscious Armour. If we are present enough to what happens within our body in the moment a distressing event or trigger occurs...

Survival Patterns. Any attempt to change behavioural patterns that are symptomatic of trauma by using the force of will is impossible....

Integrating Suppressed Anger. Anger is something that is quite often misunderstood. Anger is often deemed as bad, wrong, unkind, bad...

The Sacred Power of Anger. Before anger becomes anger, before we tell a story about it and project it outward in the form of blame and...

A Fierce Desire for Truth. What is Truth? What can we know for certain? How much of what we think we know are just learnt assumptions,...

Trauma, Surrender and the Survival Instinct. Surrender is a concept widely used within the spiritual community, within 12 step programs,...

When Healing Perpetuates Deficiency. (When inquiry becomes self improvement) It seems working on one's triggers is a new thing. It seems...

Gentle and Compassionate Stillness As often as you remember, take gentle moments of stillness all through the day. Widen your awareness...

Presence Is Not the Same as Being Present. Presence is what you are, but being present is something you do. Being Present implies a...

Simply Noticing. Have you every allowed yourself to just simply notice? Without placing a demand, a judgement or a label, without...

Questioning Our Reality. After a few weeks of working with clients who seem to be actively traumatising themselves with conspiracy...

Working with the darkness. I will not tell you not to panic, I will not tell you not to be frightened and not to worry, I will not...

What do you really want? All the seeking... All the attempts to fix yourself... All the attempts to please others... All the running...

Love and Wholeness Underneath all the waves, the conditioned patterns of mind, the turbulent feelings of anxiety and pain and trauma...

Radical Self Honesty. So often we are deceiving ourselves. We fool ourselves to the point that we believe our own lies, we believe...

Our Aversion to Pain. We are all hooked up to seek pleasure and avoid pain. We do this to such an extent that we cause all kinds of...

We have all heard the saying: "What you resist, persists." On some level we all know this to be true. But yet, just knowing this doesn't...

Trauma is an adaptation, not a disorder. When we experience a conditioned reactive pattern, in other words a trauma trigger if we are...